The Highest Frequency Wins

I don’t know about you guys but I’m a sensitive person and it has taken me a long time to learn how to use that sensitivity to my advantage. I used to drown in the energy of those around me. I could’ve been in a dancing mood but if I walked into a room where people were gossiping or complaining, I wasn’t able to bring my dancing spirit into the atmosphere. Instead I would collapse under their clouds and cry about it later. In my mind, I would say, “I would rather NOT be around gossip or meaningless conversations” but I would just stay quiet, as if my silence automatically persuaded them to change the subject or something. Lately, I’ve been experiencing the extreme delight that comes from being able to maintain my energy within someone else’s storm. Holding space for others, without getting emotionally drained, is something that takes time and practice. I’m getting better at doing this each day and I am going to share 3 thoughts that have been helping me SO much. 

1. KNOW YOUR POWER & CULTIVATE YOUR ENERGY 

It’s important to be aware of how powerful your energy can be IF you make it a priority to INTENTIONALLY cultivate it. For example: When I workout, meditate and journal in the morning, I am elevating my frequency and connecting with my source. When I am in that space? LET ME TELL YOU! No one can bring me down. In that mindset, I am able to respond to the opposing energy of others instead of reacting to it. This doesn’t mean that I have to become the positivity police and shame anyone who complains or expresses how they feel and it doesn't mean that I will change then into different people. (We can't change anyone except ourselves, anyway) But it DOES mean that I can offer my light in the form of kind, uplifting words or an optimistic outlook. I have the power to turn a conversation, that is centered around gossip, into a conversation that is centered around empathy and understanding. I have the power to make someone laugh in the midst of their pain. I have the power to be of service to someone who needs help. These days, I am constantly telling myself, “The highest frequency in the room wins.” I can join chorus of complainers at work or I can sing a new song, even if I have to sing it alone for a while. I am realizing my power. I do not have to deal with anyone else’s crappy energy. I have the power to shift the energy in any room. I have the power to set the tone. We all do. 

2. SELF AWARENESS 

Being AWARE of my capacity to hold space for others in their time of need is vital. It’s impossible to be EVERYONE’S shoulder to cry on, at all times. I do not have to give two hours of my time listening to someone express themselves just because they called me or because we are at the same place at the same time or because we are close family or friends. Nope. I can politely tell them that I am not currently in a position to give them the quality attention that they deserve and we can both agree on a time that will be better for the both of us. Advocate for yourself, honey! These days, I’ve been getting better at communicating these things to my loved ones. The other day, I told my brother, in a nice way, “I’m feeling kind of tired and I’m in need of a good nights rest. So, let’s talk tomorrow.” I used to just give him a horrible attitude or say something unnecessarily mean. Being vulnerable doesn’t feel fun in the moment but it really is a relationship saver. Self awareness will help you understand what you need to do in order to bring your energy up high again and it will also help you realize all of the things that you shouldn’t do, in that moment, in order to lift your energy. How do we gain more self awareness? Meditation my friends, meditation. Taking time to be still, will ALWAYS provide us with deep personal revelations. 

3. DARE TO BRING THE FULLNESS OF WHO YOU ARE TO EVERY ATMOSPHERE 

It can be intimidating to maintain your energetic tone when someone approaches you with a negative one. It can feel like you’re disappointing someone when you shut them them down after they approach you with gossip, they may not want to talk to you very much afterwards but they will learn how to participate in cultivating YOUR productive energy instead of draining you with THEIR unproductive energy. You can teach people how to interact with you by the way you carry yourself. We should never dim our light or turn down our frequency in order to fit into an atmosphere because when we dare to bring the fullness of who we are into conversations and places, we can create positive change and protect ourselves from energy draining situations. And hey, I’ve been an energy drainer before, we’ve all been there but the more awareness I get, the more intentional I am with how I use my power. We are responsible for how we use our power. 

That’s all my friends. Just remember, the next time you’re in a situation where someone is losing their patience or freaking out or complaining or gossiping, you do not have to go along with their flow. You have the power to direct the flow in the direction that YOU want it to go. The highest frequency wins. 

One day at a time. 

We got this.