The Best Way To Do Affirmations

Last week we got into the first step to destroying destructive core beliefs: Meditation. 

Have you meditated this week? I’ll be your accountability partner and encourage you to begin your meditation journey if you’ve yet to implement it into your everyday routine. 

I’ve been setting a 20 minute timer on my phone and focusing on my breathing. It’s wildly amazing how I can feel myself bringing my thoughts back to the present whenever they wander, it’s like a muscle that needs to be exercised and I can feel the resistance but I’m having a good time learning how to gently guide myself back to my inhale and my exhale. 

This week we’re getting into step two: Affirmations. 

I used to take this practice lightly. I spent a while writing down new affirmations each day. Looking back, I now understand that I wasn’t giving them a chance to marinate into my subconscious mind. 

I’ve found a method of practicing affirmations that has been transforming my mind and truly destroying old destructive core beliefs. 

Here it is: After beginning my consistent meditation practice, I became more aware of my weaknesses, fears, desires, etc. So I wrote affirmations according to the revelations that I received while meditating. I’m still doing this and I will do this for the rest of my life. I’ll give you an example. 

During my time of stillness, I noticed that my body was holding so much anxiety from negative thoughts. One of those recurring thoughts were, “You suck & you’ll never be good enough for anything great.” That thought was bullying me for a long time and I wasn’t fighting back hard enough. Thoughts like that don’t go away after one prayer or one therapy session. Thoughts like that require consistency and intentionality. It’s easy to grow tired of fighting and just allow the thought to live inside of one of the tiny rooms in your mind but that is a DANGEROUS thing to allow because that sucker will walk out of that tiny room and take a giant dump all over your house in the worst moment. Then you're left with a mess, over and over again. 

Now I’ve got some affirmations that I say out loud three times a day. Morning, afternoon and before I go to sleep. Here are a few of them: 

“I am alive for a unique purpose.” 

“I am believing in myself today.” 

“I am loved by God as I am.” 

“I am not my toxic thoughts.” 

“I am present. I am powerful. I am at peace.” 

And I have a bunch more. A bunch! You can have as many as you need. 

The key is to repeat them, out loud, three times per day AND LET ME TELL YOU! This has been working wonders in my life. Now, when any destructive thought surfaces, my mind is full of something that is true and powerful about myself to fight back. There is no room to dwell on the old smelly core beliefs. What’s incredible is that they begin to decrease in size. That which used to torture me is only now a distant voice that I can recognize and attack before it even comes close. 

Another beautiful result from doing these affirmations, out loud, three times a day is that I’ve started speaking to myself in a sweet and gentle way. I didn’t even do this intentionally, it just flowed out of me. One day I just randomly started calling myself, “my love.” Instead of correcting myself by saying, “Gosh get it right” or “C’mon don’t mess up so much, really?.” I’ve been talking to myself like I would talk to a lover or a best friend. “Okay my love you messed up but let’s try again. I believe in you.” And when I catch myself being rude, I apologize and go back to kindness. 

There is transformative power in the words we choose to say out loud. Being intentional about our word choice is life changing. It is changing my life. 

Think about it like this: What if everything that you said automatically came to pass? What would you say? 

The mind blowing thing is that words become things whether we are conscious of that truth or not, whether we want to believe it or not, whether we choose our words carefully or not. 

Everything we say turns into something we see, experience, feel or believe to be absolutely true. 

I encourage you to start writing down some affirmations, say them out loud, three time a day, on purpose, with intention, knowing that this will begin powerful process of transformation in your SELF. 

This is step two to destroying destructive core beliefs. 

I’m on the journey with you. I’m experiencing things that I’ve never experienced before. New opportunities are showing up, my world is opening up and I understand that it is because I have been intentional with my word choices. 

One day at a time. One word at a time. One affirmation a a time my friends. 

We got this.