Our energy is made up of many different things like our attitudes, core beliefs, nutrition, perspectives, expectations, physical activity, how we see the world, body language, etc.
Have you ever met someone and clicked right away? It’s like your energy matched theirs, right? I love it when that happens. I’ve also experienced the opposite scenario where I meet someone and we do not connect, at all. We’re polite with one another, exchange light hearted conversation but the connection simply is not there. This happens with strangers, acquaintances, friends, family, church people and co workers. It is perfectly okay and normal, in fact, that you aren’t best friends with everyone.
But how about those people who drain your energy?
I don’t think most of them are conscious of the fact that they are draining you. I’m positive that I have drained someone’s energy in one way or another before becoming aware of the power that I possess. We’ve all been there, am I right?
Before we get into the 5 ways to protect our energy, let’s sit with that for a moment. It’s important that we’re all aware of the power that we individually possess.
We can lift the energy in any room by simply walking into it or we could match the energy of the room and leave with less than what we came with.
The choice is always ours. I didn’t always know this and I didn’t have the tools to apply this ginormous truth to my life, until recently. I’m learning and applying as I share with you guys.
It wasn’t until I began to intentionally clear my energy on a daily basis that I realized how much of other people’s energy was rubbing off on me. I was carrying loads of anxiety that didn’t even belong to me.
#1
Understand what feeds your energy.
The first way to protect your energy is to understand it.
Ask yourself the following questions:
What increases my energy?
What decreases my energy?
Make a list and take notice of those things.
One of the things that increase my energy is 80’s music. I can’t explain it because I wasn’t even born in the 80’s but man, that production takes me to another place and a random smile always creeps up on my face when it comes on the radio. So, I’m making a playlist of my favorite songs from the 80’s because I want more of what increases my energy.
Too much time on social media lowers my energy so I’m limiting my time on there and replacing it with something that lifts me higher like reading or singing. I recommend that you make this list so you can be aware of how you can protect your energy within yourself, not just when you’re around other people. Sometimes we can be our own energy drainers.
#2
Know what your destructive core beliefs are.
I’m learning that my energy is guided by my core beliefs. I’m also learning that core beliefs are first formed in our subconscious when we are children. I have been discovering these core beliefs by taking an honest look at the areas in my life that have not been bearing fruit.
I’ll give you an example of an exercise that I’ve been doing lately in order to change these destructive beliefs:
What are your current core beliefs?
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Destructive Core Beliefs: |
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My singing isn’t good enough to be a successful artist. |
I did not receive affirmation as a child and I took my failed auditions personally instead of taking them as opportunities for more growth and more lessons. |
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New Core Belief + The Absolute truth: |
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I have been gifted with a beautiful voice along with the gift of songwriting and many other wonderful gifts. These gifts were given to me to regift them to others in service, with the purpose of spreading art, joy and love into the world. |
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This exercise is humbling, it pokes at the ego and it’s not easy to share but this is something that has been helping me so much. This is changing my energy when I sing. It’s a process but I’m in it and that’s what matters. So, get into this one if you'd like because it helps a lot.
#3
Intentional breath work.
When I walk into a room or space that feels heavy, I take deep breaths and make my exhale longer than in inhale. I do at least three of those deep breaths while reminding myself that I have a choice. I can go down to the energy of the room or rise above it.
What are we without our breath? We’re dead.
So look up some breathing exercises and pick your favorites my friends.
I'm learning that I can set the tone of any dinner table or group environment. I do not have to lower my energy for anyone or anything. I can uphold boundaries and choose to not even step into certain environments. During all of these decisions, I am breathing, bringing myself to the present moment and centering myself.
It sounds so simple but yes, just breathe.
#4
Be aware of your trauma responses.
Do you know when you’re responding to a situation from a wounded place or a healed place? Sometimes your own trauma response could be what’s lowering your energy. This is why it’s important for us to recognize the trauma we’ve been through and how it has impacted us. This way, we can choose to react from a place of awareness.
For example: If you were emotionally neglected by a parent, any small thing that comes across as emotional neglect from a friend or a partner can possibly trigger you and cause you to feel intense emotions but if you’re aware of this you can work through this and communicate it. Doing that, instead of acting out will always protect your energy and give you more energy, rather than drain you because of something you did or said that you regret afterwards.
#5
Use your words.
I’ve been reminding myself of the power of my words because I can lift my own energy with what I say. I have a list of affirmations (that I actually take the time to read out loud now in days), playlists with positive lyrics, reminders on my phone and accountability with one or two people in my life.
I’ve been meditating every morning this week for 10 minutes and it’s been helping me with how I interact with my thoughts, which results in making better choices with the words that come out of my mouth. It gives me the ability to pause before speaking.
Do whatever works for you, whatever it is that helps you pause, feel and think before you speak. Let's treat words like tattoos. Let's be careful with every single one. Words create your world. Create a world with good/high/pure energy by speaking good things over your life.
Please share any other ways in which you protect your energy in the comment section below, I would love to hear more!
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