Blooming Season Family!
How was your Christmas? I hope you felt some peace in your hearts.
The holiday/end of the year season can be an emotional time because the atmosphere is sensitive. A lot of our deep rooted feelings may be rising to the surface during this time and I think that it is very beneficial, although it can be uncomfortable.
There are many things that we have suppressed and throughout our experiences, as we are faced with the pressures of life, all of that which is suppressed, rises to the surface.
We can make the choice to heal, once we become conscious of something that has been suppressed or we can distract ourselves once again.
There are 4 levels :
- Conscious
- Unconscious
- Subconscious
- Suppression
This is why meditation is extremely important.
The result of mediation is awareness.
The more awareness we have, the more every experience or emotion we have will be processed fully, in the moment, instead of falling into suppression and building up over time.
The more time we spent in the conscious state, the more will be released from suppression and the more healing we will experience.
Meditation isn’t only when we seclude ourselves in silence.
That’s definitely a great way to meditate but there are many ways to heal our emotional responses, past trauma or mental challenges.
So, what are some practical habits that we can apply to our lives for healing?
The ego can get in the way of this but we can resist the ego in order to examine our reactions.
For example :
Let’s say, I’m driving, someone cuts me off and I start yelling my head off in red hot rage.
After the outburst, I become a detective, get curious and ask myself questions.
In silence or out loud but I do not allow the moment to pass without dissecting it like a science experiment.
As my cheeks go from flaming red to soft pink and down to its normal brown.
Where did that rage come from?
What are some events in my childhood that made me feel rage?
Is there anything in my current circumstance that has been stressing me out?
Research. Every. Reaction.
This is a habit that we can develop.
A habit that will lead us to inspect ourselves.
How does this help?
Well, after we have the information/the reason why we burst into anger, then the next time we experience that emotion, we will react in a healthier way because we know the root from which the rage came from.
It will take time for the rage to cool into patience but our awareness is the beginning of the process.
Take a moment each day to gather at least one piece of new information that relates to something that you’re working on with your mental health or personal development.
Even if it’s only one quote.
Write down something that will benefit you.
I have been taking down notes from Dr. Caroline Leaf and they have been changing my life.
She shares the scientific research that behind our actions/thoughts and shares the things that we can do to improve our thought life.
One of her phrases that have helped me a lot is :
“You think - You feel - You choose.”
That phrase reminds me that I choose what feelings to feed and remain in.
Just because I have a thought or feeling, does not mean that I must stay there.
Intentionally inform yourself on a daily basis because there are many tools available to us for our growth journey.
Youtube is a great place to search for interviews with Doctors or financial advisors or whatever you’d like more information about. Podcasts are a wonderful resource as well and don’t underestimate google.
Become a student.
You train your mind’s strength, as you challenge your body.
Go beyond your walk and start a light jog for 5 minutes.
During that 5 minutes, your mind will tell you that you’re tired but if you tell your mind you can do it, your body will follow.
By getting into the habit of challenging your body, you will begin to challenge your mind when thoughts or emotions arise with the intention of bringing you low and keeping you there.
So, challenge your body :
Walk faster, jog for a bit longer, jump rope, stretch, jump rope, learn a dance, do a 30 minute workout from youtube, etc.
This habit has changed my life.
Find your kind of quiet.
Prayer, meditation, stillness, etc.
For a few minutes each day, be still.
Set an alarm for 5 minutes or however short or long and get quiet.
In the stillness, much is revealed.
We tend to live our lives without processing the grandeur of what is happening or ignoring the details of our days.
This is why it’s vital to find a method of processing that works for you.
To process what?
Your emotions, your experiences, your challenges, etc.
Every 24 hours, we should reflect on what happened, even if it’s only for a few minutes.
This analysis can help us do better the following day.
For example :
If I wasted too much time on my phone today, I could face that truth during the 10 minutes I take to process my day and I can forgive myself for that.
We could be carrying loads of self loathing, unconsciously, simply because we did not forgive ourselves for overeating or having a attitude while working on a project or anything else that we may have done that didn't benefit us or those around us.
After I forgive myself, I can try again tomorrow, instead of beating myself up for not having the best day.
We can ask ourselves, “How was my day today? How can tomorrow be even better than today?”
Personally, I use a journal to write down the moments of my day that I need to untangle or moments that I need to understand or moments that bothered me, etc.
At the end of each day, process it so you don’t get constipated with anything and tomorrow can flow even smoother.
If I’m always on social media, I am easily drained of my energy, my creativity and my ability to use my time in ways that benefit me.
So, make your own rules.
For example :
- No phone 1st thing in the morning.
- Only use social media after you have done something towards your mission/purpose.
- No phone before bed.
Whatever works for you.
I, personally, need some kind of rules to follow because I could spend hours on social media if I don’t have some rules to help me out.
Create your own rules for social media and your phone if you need to.
We need people.
We were created for a tribe setting, not an island setting.
So, send a text, make a call, serve a friend or family or stranger in need.
Experiencing human connection is good for our emotional health.
We tend to close up when we are experiencing a difficult season but we will always gain better results if we choose to open up.
We could open up to licensed counselors via internet, a trusted friend or family member.
It is vital to connect.
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Those are 7 practical habits for our continued emotional healing journey and I hope that they help you.
If you have any other habits that have helped you, please share them in the comments below!
Next time I post a blog it will be a brand new year!
So, Happy New Year my friends!
Thank you for a wonderful year of reading, of growth and internal exploration.
We will continue the journey in 2021!
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