Something that I’m currently learning is this that we carry our inner child with us throughout our entire life. I used to think that she would go away at some point but that’s not how it works.
My favorite Holistic Psychologist, Dr. Nicole LePera, says that our subconscious is formed in the first 7 years of our life. We are basically a sponge, soaking in everything and learning how to be a human being.
We all have had different childhoods and I don’t know what your personal experience has been like but normally we have all missed out on something that we needed. Not because our parents or guardians are horrible people but this is simply due to the fact that they are human.
It is impossible to give what you do not have within yourself.
That reality alone, is so healing and freeing. Whatever we missed in our child is not anyones fault.
That truth helps us release any anger or blame. It helps us towards any forgiveness that we may need to give in order for us to experience more freedom within ourselves.
Okay, back to our inner child.
What do you believe you missed in your childhood?
Personally, I missed out on emotional connection and validation.
I have been experiencing different manifestations of my inner child recently. Now that we have been forced to spend more time at home, we have less distractions and more time to face our truth.
My inner child has been having tempter tantrums.
Instead of sitting down and connecting with my emotions as I have learned to do as an adult, my inner child has been pushing me towards other things because this is an unfamiliar task that she labels as dangerous.
What do I mean by, “pushing me towards other things?”
My inner child urges me to protect myself from this dangerous/unfamiliar thing. So, sometimes I win and I manage to do what I have to do but other times? I lose terribly and scroll through social media for an hour to distract myself instead of taking the time to connect with myself.
My lack of validation during my childhood manifests itself by daydreaming about different scenarios where I am being validated.
I could be in the middle of doing something and my imagination will drift without warning to a scene where someone is telling me that I am doing a great job. Or that I am beautiful. Or that I am special.
So, now I talk to my inner child when I catch my mind drifting and creating these scenarios in my imagination.
I tell her, “I understand that you need validation. You do not need to create fake scenarios in your head. I can provide that validation for you.”
Then, I proceed to give myself the validation that I desire. “You are beautiful.” “You are doing a great job.” “You are loved by the Most High.”
I usually say it in my head or out loud if no one is around.
Have you ever experienced something similar?
It’s important to accept that we carry our inner child with us and if we do not heal that inner child? We will be controlled by it and we will continue repeating old habits unconsciously.
Our auto pilot will simply turn on when we are not paying attention and it will drive us around.
I have been learning so much from Dr. Nicole LePera. She is a Holistic Psychologist that shares life changing information regarding all areas of wellness. She is the one who really opened my eyes regarding this inner child work. You should follow her on Instagram and subscribe to her website if you’re interested in gaining incredible professional insight.
I’ll link her website right here : https://yourholisticpsychologist.com
Are you aware of your inner child and the control it has over your life?
Comment your own experience down below!
Remember to have patience with yourself on your healing journey. It's a life long ride my friends.
Thank you for being here.
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